Is convenience a barrier to finding the others?

Are we designing connection out of our lives?

I was interested to see this image shared on LinkedIn, sparking a debate about how our daily conveniences quietly narrow our worlds.

"Every shortcut we take - every delivery, automation, and algorithm - saves time but also skips touchpoints. Moments that once stitched our days together. Each one, tiny on its own. Together, they make up the relational fabric of life."Dominick Shattuck, PhD

So what does this mean for actionism? To build the future we need, for ourselves and the planet, we need to practice the art of taking collective action, and if we never set foot outside our house, look up from our phone, or step outside of our comfort zone, how will we ever meet the people who want to take action with us!

So here are my top actions to help you make more connections - and maybe even find 'the others' to start taking collective action with.

One simple change could spark something amazing

• Take the same walk at the same time for a few days - you'll start recognising faces, nodding hello, maybe exchanging a word about the weather. Regularity creates familiarity.
• Leave your headphones at home for one journey - notice who's around you, be available for spontaneous conversation.
• Linger somewhere - the park, the café, the library. Don't rush. See who else lingers.

To find the others who care like you do:

• Wear or carry something that signals your values - a badge, a bag, a book cover on display. It's a conversation starter for the right people.
• Go to where the thing is happening - the community garden, the repair café, the local meeting about the thing you're frustrated about. Show up in person.
• Ask your neighbours a question - not just "how are you?" but something specific: "Do you know if there's a tool library around here?" or "Have you noticed the bins overflowing too?"
• Say yes to the thing you'd normally decline - the street party planning meeting, the school parents' gathering, the local action group.

To build relationships that lead to action:

• Suggest doing something together, not just talking - "Shall we walk while we chat?" or "Want to come with me to check out that community project?"
• Share what frustrates you - when someone mentions something that bothers them about the area/system/world, don't just sympathise. Say "Me too. I've been thinking about..."
• Invite people to something you're already doing - if you're going to a talk, a meeting, a community event - experiences build connections, so ask someone to come with you.

So, I encourage you to choose the less-travelled road. The option that takes slightly longer requires you to be present, to think differently. That's where the others are.